what to text him when he disappears

However, I wonder how the relationship is going to be if both guys and girls play game on each other. Could mean a few things. But my resentment and hurt is now greater than the sex ever was. I thought if I didnt do this, he wouldnt be like this. Like I do not know what he thinks so I do not know what to do !!!! I know I am just a mess when it comes to these things as anyone else but the one thing I have learned is just because a guy is unsure or seems unsure of his own feelings doesnt give him the right to mess with yours. I can understand youre drawn to him because he treats you sweet enough to hang on to his bait and then drop you as soon as you are hooked. good education, professionals). Thanks BLaw. Looks like I am headed in the same direction as your cousin..Damn, This guy finally contacted me first on Monday, then on Friday after the final text I sent him, I did not contact him at all last week, I was checking to see if he would initiate contact without me texting himI guess he needed some sort of ego stroke and was worried that he would lose me as an option. He would jump to the internet right after his work to talk to me but now, even when he has the time he just doesnt seem to be interested in talking to me. I dont know what I said or if ever Ive done something to him that he didnt like. And he actually didnt seem to want to let me go, and suddenly he just cut contact. but you know I never contact him again until now. He couldnt even be bothered to reach out after 3.5 months of dating? But for now, I just let myself cry and time will heal. 1. Ive enjoyed being with you and Id like to see you again, but I havent been getting the same vibe since I last saw you. Things were going well, We planned on getting together on the weekend. Emotions are brutal, but I know the only choice I have is to move on completely! Try not to replay that night in your mind and move on. Of course he didnt answer. If he loved me enough, he wouldnt let me go. I am a well educated woman with a great career. Hmmmm. He didnt respond. Its only been a few days, to be honest, but I am so proud of myself for keeping a tight reign my dignity despite my anger and disappointment at being let down. People generally describe me as fun to be around, caring and interesting person. I like what you said up there Time can move the relationship either way as we get to know people, we either like them more or like them less Its nothing personal. It seems that every guy Vanishes on me. People make a way to do what they want. I often use the term disposable relationship to describe how the dating scene is now. And there's more. I actually only got a couple to talk to me again, and it was cause they initiated sex. Is he curious about you? That hes far more concerned about himself and not you. I dont know if I should give him a chance or unfriend him. ), he freaked and said he did not think he would meet anyone like me so soon(been divorced only 11 months). I know men sometimes need space for themselves to be men. i was so confused and brokenhearted but also offended. I was proud to say, Nope, I cant ever give you another shot, not after what you did twice to me. In that case confronting someone is warranted. Just look around all you see anymore is texting, texting, texting. 1: because he is married and I've never initiated contact, he always did. It was so easy! Especially when you believed in everything he said, I felt really stupid. I just want to disappear out of his life to. I told him to sit tight i could be there in 2 hours but i couldnt leave work. So I replied saying ok but asked for him to give me an explanation when he was ready and I hoped he was ok (by the way I was totally devastated.) but I was feeling so emotionally exhausted, and tired I decided to call him out on it..humorously of course since confrontation is not my strongest point. Typical short dicked man mentality. He isnt the guy for you. Its much easier to ghost her. Just before we met up, we were chatting about meeting up he insisted on meeting me the next day. What I want to know is I know I shouldnt have freaked out and assumed the worst. So it seemed as if he didnt want me to leave. He never asked for anything, it wasnt sleazy and no online hanky panky,but we shared our thoughts, dreams and love. Awww Sweetie, men do stuff like that when they are getting too closeyour guy probably has baggage that he needs to deal with and perhaps he thought that he could not handle an LDRLet him go..I know the feeling..but usually they do reach out within one to two months, they miss the feeling of being wanted and loved and they miss you but usually for the wrong reasonsI would say let him go and try (and this is going to be very hard) to keep your options openstart dating..indulge yourselfYou are strong enough and smart enough not to have chased himMost women try to reach out in desperation, I have done it in my lowest and darkest times and made a complete fool of myself..Oh yeah, I cringe at the stupid things I have doneIve only just learnt to relax and step back and realize that if a guy truly likes you, you dont have to chase him, he will like pursuing you, in fact he will love it, he will want to have you all to himself and snatch you before anyone else takes you off the market..All you have to do is respond to him positively. Maybe Ive led a sheltered life, but I really didnt think that he or people would play with someones emotions like that, when I was so honest with about everything, I expected the same in return. Im not bad looking. Most of the guys either wanted someone to have sexy talk with or, the ones that seemed genuine told you they loved you within a few weeks, and we know that is not possible!. But I just dont understand the no contact thing. And now I have someone constantly poking me on Facebook and sending me stickers who I consider a new friend, maybe more. Then, what happened? So I replied telling him to hit the road! He has a girlfriend in his hometown. I am a screw up. Or they friend zone us. The city I dropped him After six months of mourning, I joined a club. But they can see Ive no baggage and am just interested in companionship, conversation, and integrity, not necessarily anything heavy, no games. He had sex with her and had great dates several times, but then she showed her craving to be in a relationship which he didnt want at all. He said its not what I think. i dated a guy I met off a dating website for 5 months, definite chemistry and we had a blast together, the same kind of goofy humor, like the same music and enjoyed each others company. Then communication slowed down stopped answering my texts I kept at it though kept messaging him once and a while I would get a brief answer back with like a heart then that stopped completely I tried reaching out to him to let him know when I was diagnosed with breast cancer and was having surgery I was still convincing myself he loved me but no response back at all so kept myself busy and eventually moved on and started to date again now yesterday I got a text from this man he was saying how he joined the army and didnt want me to worry if he got hurt or killed so he didnt tell me now he is saying how sad he is he hoped to come back and make me his wife made me feel guilty Im ? We had little disagreements but they never left us angry. Im sorry but i am no longer interested good luck though. Is he sizing her up or tethering her? He also stated to me several times that I deserved something so much better than him and that he wasnt relationship material.Then until a month and half ago. The loss of that daily contact is really like a huge hole in your life. I have some of his DVDs too so might just wait & see if he texts me about it. I didnt hear from him and waited until this week (week 9) to email him and see how he was going and were his head was at. Then he had an issue with his ex and I didnt hear a word for 12 hours. I felt I needed a break to give myself time to heal, to reassess my goals, and to instill this mindset about dating that Ive been learning from ANM. he probably only needed someone to boost his ego coz he knew about my feelings. People have lives and the world does not evolve around him and that penis. he ticks a few key boxes you want in a man: he's attractive. We said our good byes hugged and went our ways. Is it really over? Was this yesterday? He then said I had him on a pedestal and he didnt feel he deserved it and had we been further into the relationship he wouldnt be so scared of it but being its so new his guard is now up. But you are right. So I leave kind of disappointed I even came if he was so out of it. It doesnt make you cheap or easy. so that was last Wednesday night, after dinner we made out at my place and he slept next to me for a few hours before he had to leave. But then again during halloween I just wished him just like to other friends and he immediately started responding. Thanks for sharing a male perspective. A young boy, nicknamed "JJ," was missing for 24 hours after leaving his home in central Florida while a parent slept until a 911 call came in . The third time was because he did something stupid while drunk about 9 months later. While I was away for a little bit for summer he became even more distant and I asked him what was up. Men use to be men from what I remember about 15 years ago. He asks me to dinner twice but I was super bussy so I couldnt and then comunications start to became more scarse. I went over to his house unannounced to talk to him face to face. My goodbye email was really nice. What do I do? But these guys are in their mid 30s and 40s. It was written in a caring way. We instantly were drawn to each other, almost like we were old souls. He invited me to meet him up at the gym, he was very flirty, very touchy, in between sets he would come talk to me. A man that is in love will stop at nothing to catch and KEEP the one he has fallen in love with. He hasnt logged into FB or messenger for over a week now. Maybe something has actually happened to him? He last talked to me on March 9th. I guess he couldnt handle his emotions. have a movie night tentatively scheduled i have zero intention on trying to sleep with her, since i dont see a future in it. But it is always me who has to text first. We stayed up till 3am talking, we didnt even realize the time. 10 years of texting and chatting can be dispelled after 10 seconds with a person if you just dont feel that personal connection face to face; and its really about more than just attraction, people have a way about them, and it might just make you uncomfortable, like someones energy is just not at all what you expected. Insecure. Two years is a long time. Thing is he gave me his hard drive to put movies on and I still have it. I do agree if they are your partner they should have the time and interest or move on but then you wouldnt be calling someone like that your partner.. Shannon you are right.. Mistake 1, I shoulda told him to bugger off righthen and there. I was dumb founded by this change of heart and his cold nature. They can charm you, make you believe youre the best thing since pop-tarts, and say anything to obtain the Holy Grail: Your ass! I have done that as well- but if i MAKE plans for a second date i will never cancel last minute- just a rule i have for myself. Im maybe a 7.5 or an 8. But he did. the second and third time made me feel ALMOST sad for him. What is his deal and is there anyway to fix it?? We met 8 months ago, we worked together for few months & everyone at work thought something was going on between ushe had a girlfriend at the time, so I made sure not to get attached. Have you tried calling him? But that said, how do you get into the mindset of not taking this personally? Now lets all breath a sigh of relief that those Houdinis did us the courtesy of finding something better! He told me to text when I got home, which I did, thanking him for everything and told him I had a great time. Trust me, thats the way I prefer it. You like the guy, and he seemed like no other! Thus, instead of choosing to end things on a good note and maturely, he disappeared because it was the easy way out. Again I was like blown away by the attitude he had. Hi folks But alas, that is too late, I sent him a message saying how much I missed him and that I didnt want to loose him by just cutting ties, that I didnt need a relationship straight away etc. The next day he sent me a text to say sorry for the late reply was really wasted and took me a day to recover.. In modern times, women dont need men for anything more occasional sex and to pick up the check when you want to go out to dinner. Prayers for an mri that I have tomorrow. Seriously. Anyway, fast forward to now, he was talking about moving in with me but first he needed to visit his family over seas. But the mystery to me is why he cant handle being in a committed relationship. And it feels so much better. Because its an uncomfortable conversation to have and he doesnt want to have it. So then 4 more days go by . The last thing this guy told me was that he needed me with him, we even talked about marriage, he is a doctor, too, we like all the same things, he seemed to be crazy in love with me and then he suddenly just vanished. I got breakfast but he really looked hungover and although we talked he looked very tired. He replied almost straight away saying Yes of course. So I would keep doing these little attention seeking ploys and basically I would intentionally self sabotage myself and thus push her away. When he disappears, he's telling you he's one or all of the following: He's not mature. I tried to call him back because this was really our first disagreement, no cuss words back and forth or belittling but it was the first time he had hung up on me. You brag about ghosting a woman and justify it. I cant believe I was so When a guy disappears without a text or a call, it could mean that hes trying to keep you as an option. he was from germany and it was summer vacation so he had to go back but he promised me he would make an effort and that distance wont break our relationship but then all of a sudden he started pulling away and minimizing contact. Now to the ghosting the day after that conversation about making thigns work I text him and he responds to my text right away. Was that a lie? He never answered back. He was trying to hide me from her, hence the sporadic communications, the sudden silence, all the sketchy behavior that like you I went crazy trying to decipher. And he has been with models and girls who have had Timmy tuck and stuff like that. [repeat], Dont want you to be sad girl Im soooo sorry. He seemed very nice, kind of shy. The problem here is you met a douchebag. He told me he loved me dearly, thought about me incessantly, want me like crazy and I live under his skin. Or just go out with him if he asks you? Move on, girl. It has nothing to do with you, but it has everything to do with them. I didnt even need his reply (I know him, so I expected that he wouldnt reply), but at least I have what I wanted a closure. The fact of the matter is some people fix themselves by breaking others!!! If a guy vanished on you, this says everything about him, not you. My gut is telling me something is wrong and im feeling like i need to listen to it. He felt lost about his job, life, apartment, and his mother who was dying and wanted time to sort stuff out. I used to blame it on the alcohol and all his stress in his life and make excuses for him. Be thanking he walked away when he did. Cause its not fair to lead them on. He was the wooer I guess you could say. You could have said, I need someone more together. I know he is going through a lot of issues right now but just dont know what to think of this. I know I loved him truly with all my heart, did he love me, as he said he did, and showed me during our 15 months together? Interesting perspectiveI like what you said up there. Well, I figured I would step up and invite him to dinner last week, which he cheerfully accepted. So did you ever meet this guy? The next day (V-day) he wouldnt answer my calls or texts but I noticed her posted a snap chat, so thats when it hit me he was straight up ignoring me. Still sucks, but its not ghosting. But the harsh reality hit me that he has not texted or asked me for almost a week. Ladies, it breaks my heart to hear how many guys have done this to us. I knew he had a big meeting with his boss so I told him I wouldnt bug him until later. Its making me so sad. No explanation. but only 2.5 hours away I have had worse, secondly, he has 3 kids, which I was excited about, third, I got sick. I refuse to text him. we felt such strong attraction that we were both baffled. I dont mean dating sites, I mean distance relationships. Boy, do I wish I had not done so. 3 turned intimate. He always dealt with issues straight on and if he had a problem he would address it and not afraid to tell me how he thinks about something. I met a guy on line he asked for my number and frim there we talked and texted regularly for 5/6 months. He felt that he had lost himself and doesnt know how to get back to the person he once was. And thats too bad, because this is one of the few places where women can express themselves and feel supported. If theyre doing it because they dont wanna lose us, its a dull theory, Cause they just wouldnt do it in the first place if that was the case. To add insult to injury, hes completely re-updated his tinder profile and has been very active so I know hes on his phone. Once weve gotten burned by these type of characters will show they dont care and nothing we do to try to have them explain or reveal themselves will matter because it simply doesnt matter to them. I tried to contact him a few times, no response. You ignored the first indication he wasnt into you and had most likely used you for sex. A week or so later he was gone for like 16 or so days but we got to talk after Christmas and my new year. Okay with it. Id probably be stupid and let him just go back to my life. Just curious what could some of the reasons be that make you fall out of interest with someone? I have deleted his number, deleted the messages and whats apps as i dont want to be stupid and text him at a moment of weakness. I see from my friends account tjah he is already following some other girls. He told me week 1 how he was falling for me. I chicken out of meeting him a few times, he says he knows Im scared to see him again. This is the main reason ive stuck around, Feeling like he needs a friend sometimes, And the person i am being there for him. Help. 4 days after this happened I sent him a note on the website saying that I was writing him mostly for myself because I didnt want things to end badly, because he had brought so much happiness to my life after i had been so sad for so long and I would be grateful for that. I have not contacted him since, nor him me. Exactly. I think a new red flag should be if a man tells you something like Im a straight up guy, RUN FOR THE HILLS, because a guy who has to tell you this is not a straight up guy (even if he genuinely thinks he is, he isnt!!! I still love him so much, miss him like crazy, even though I starting to realise that he doesnt deserve my love. If you had never met in person it may be that he doesnt look ANYTHING like what you imagined and was unwilling to go through with a personal meetup. Of finding something better from what I want to know is I he. 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